The Out-of-the-Box Parenting Coach for your Non-Traditional Family
(SINCE 2009)
This Is a No-Judgement Zone With Room for
LGBTQ+, Blended, Single and Poly Parents & Caregivers
You Try So Hard to Be the Best Parent You Can Be, and Yet, Too Often, You End Up
Being The Parent You Never Wanted To Be!
If you’ve read the books, talked to your friends, and you still end up feeling like you’re the only one struggling with parenting as you sink deeper into guilt and self-blame, you’re in the right place.
If you’ve put your child in time out, in therapy, made sticker charts, taken everything you can think of away, reasoned, bribed, yelled, and walked on every eggshell you can find, and yet you still feel like you’re talking to the wall, you’re in the right place.
If it seems that no matter how hard you try, it never feels like enough, you're also in the right place.
Our Conditioning Sets Unrealistic Expectations
Of Parenting Perfection.
But those expectations are fantasies that no one can achieve, no matter how things look from the outside.
It can be hard to reach out for help! And if you’re worried that assumptions about your identity and lifestyle preferences will be tied directly to your kid's problems, it can be even harder.
Check all the following boxes where you recognize yourself:
If you recognized yourself in at least 5 things on the list, I want you to know you are not alone! Most parents struggle with being a parent, and I’ve worked with hundreds of parents just like you.
If Love Alone and Trying Harder Isn't Doin' It,
You're In the Right Place
Why wouldn't you feel a lack of confidence and competence when the things you try don’t work for YOUR child?! Here's a glimmer of hope. I believe that it’s not about trying harder, it’s about doing something different.
And if You're Parenting a Blended Family,
There's a Sh**load of Added Dynamics to Deal With!
What one mom had to say about restoring her loving, connected, emotionally available presence at home...
“I feel very connected to my kids now and am able to tune in to what they need in the moment.”
Janine - MA, Licensed Acupuncturist, Yoga teacher, mom of 2
When I started working with Kathy I felt so overwhelmed - like it was all beyond me and I had no idea how to handle what was going on with my kids. We were always yelling, things would escalate and it was ugly. No-one was happy and i didn't know what to do.
Now I feel very connected to my kids and am able to tune in to what they need in the moment. When there's an outburst, I can step back and not have to take it personally. I have confidence that we can shift and deal with what’s really going on...and I know we’re all going to be OK!
Parenting Can Be Hard!
Do you find yourself at your wit's end with any of these?
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Your 3 year old runs away when you tell them to put on their shoes.
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Your 8 year old throws a fit and screams hurtful things at you when you tell them to get off their iPad...
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Your 14 year old runs to their room and slams the door when you ask them to do anything...
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Your Trans/Non-binary teen won't tell you what's going on with them...
Click on the appropriate link for help with your child.
Parenting Beyond Words Believes Understanding, Responding and Connecting Fit Together As a Whole Parenting Approach for
Loving Connection & Peace at Home
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1. Understanding what’s happening with your child
so you know what to do
2. Becoming more able to respond rather than react
3. Strengthening loving connection
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As an RN, parenting coach, trauma-informed child behavior specialist, mom & poet, I've connected with hundreds of parents, just like you, since 2009, in workshops and one-on-one in depth coaching. You are not alone in your challenges!
I struggled for years as a single, divorced parent with my kiddo’s oppositional, defiant and withdrawn behavior. It felt like no matter what I did, I couldn't get through. I felt more and more alone and overwhelmed as the voices around me told me to ramp up on the consequences or “just” try this or that thing that worked for them. I blamed myself for not being consistent enough. I vowed to be more patient. And still we continued to struggle.
Somewhere inside I knew these approaches weren’t right for my child but I didn’t know what else to do! I couldn't make sense of what was happening no matter how hard I tried. Like you, I was missing the same key piece of the parenting puzzle - that behavior is communication.
I finally got the right help and support to understand the connection between behavior and communication and do what was needed. Even though our problems had been going on years, it wasn't too late for us to turn things around and repair our loving connection! Read more of my story.
Hi, I’m Kathy
(and this is my grandson)
Click on the appropriate link for help with your child.